In reviews of books like The Truth About Forever, Dreamland, The Pact, Twenty Boy Summer, and other books that have protagonists dealing with things like depression, grief, and people dealing with serious relationship/family/emotional issues (things like losing someone you love, being neglected, or being in an abusive relationship), I've found a lot of reviews that say things to the effect of:
omg, can't she/he just GET OVER IT ALREADY!!!??or
i have little sympathy for people this stupid/weak. ugh.The answer to the first question is MAYBE NOT and to the second -- sorry everyone can't be as strong/intelligent as you.
The fact is that people go through things. Real people, real issues, every single day. And even though the reviews I've read are for fictional books, aimed at fictional characters, the sentiment behind them startles and worries me because I can only assume they feel the same way about actual people who go through these things. Asking someone who is depressed if they can just "get over it already??" is insensitive and rude. The word "depressed" gets tossed around a lot, and pretty carelessly by many people, but depression is a real issue. And it's not a bad day, or a bad week, or something most people can just snap out of. Clinical depression is something that makes people feel hopeless and worthless; it's so much more, so much worse than just having a bad day. It often requires medical treatment and isn't something that should be treated lightly or scoffed at.
And guess what?
There are things in life that hurt people. The death of a loved one. Heartbreak. Family problems, personal problems, health problems, all kinds of things that aren't obvious when meeting someone could be affecting them emotionally. And I know there are people who are able to get up, dust themselves off, and move on when it comes to these things,b but for other people the events can be crippling. We all handle things and react to things differently. What might hurt one person, might affect them for years and so much longer than anyone thinks it "should" could, for someone else, not be a big deal.
We are all fragile, and different things can break us.
I am not stupid or weak. My friends and my family are not stupid or weak. And yet so many of us, so many of the people I know and love, have been through things that hurt them, that broke them. Anyone -- if hit at the wrong time, with the wrong thing, can become that "stupid" or "weak" person. They can fall apart. They can lose themselves and find that it's really not that easy to get over it.